“Why should I forgive the Russians?” My Ukrainian friend stared at me from across the table, her eyes reflecting her confusion. She knew of the Bible’s command to forgive, but how could God expect her to pardon those who had forced her to flee her...

Things I would never say: “If someone is harmful to you on purpose—emotionally, physically, or spiritually—Jesus wants you to forgive that person—meaning you have to continue spending lots of time with him/her. Make yourself a doormat. It is your ...