Shuffling in the door from church, my dad set his backpack on the chair and pulled out his calendar. He spread it on the kitchen table and reminded me of his dentist appointment and medicine pickup.  

I nodded as I spread butter on the sandwiches. 

My dad continued to pepper me with questions as irritation bubbled up inside of me. 

Trying to control my temper, I said, “Dad, how about we finish planning your week after we eat lunch?” 

“Oh, ok.” He mumbled. 

My mom died four years ago, and I became my dad’s caregiver. I didn’t think I was ready for this stage of life since all four of my kids are home and none of my friends are caregivers. But the Lord’s timing is best.

Caregiving is tough because I’m realizing how impatient and selfish I am. 

How can I be a God-pleasing caregiver? 

Accept God’s plan - As global workers, it is easy to elevate public ministry as more important than private caregiving. But that isn’t true. All things done for the glory of God are important and won’t go unnoticed by our Savior. 

Matthew 10:42 reminds us that giving a cup of cold water in Jesus’ name won’t be unrewarded. 

Ask for help - Caregiving is exhausting. As we juggle the added responsibilities, enlist others to help. We can set up online grocery delivery; hire housekeeping; rotate responsibilities with a friend; and schedule personal time to rest. 

John 19:26-27 records Jesus dying on the cross and placing his mother in John’s care. 

Administer grace - As we watch our loved ones deteriorate, it requires patience, humility, and grace. We need to be generous with these because Jesus is with us. Not to mention that someday the tables will be turned and we will need assistance. 

Philippians 2:3-4 challenges us to think of others as more important than ourselves.

Caregiving is a wonderful way to honor our parents and the Lord while refining us.

I would like to say that I don’t get frustrated any more, but that isn’t true. I’m learning to accept God’s agenda, ask for help, and administer grace. May the same be true for you when God calls you to be a caregiver.