Longevity takes on a new meaning when you’ve signed up for an open-ended commitment to global work. There is no definite end date to look ahead to after weeks, months, or even a couple of years. 

Many elements impacted my first open-ended expat experience; but especially relationships. 

Relationships enriched my time in South Asia. I found good community. Some friends shared my passport country and some did not. When friends also had young children, it was an incredible support. Other friends were single or married without children. We enjoyed time together trying new restaurants, game nights, etc. These relationships increased my longevity in South Asia and quality of life. There were healthy boundaries, communication, and mutual respect. Of course, there were moments of stress—that is part of expat life, but usually we were able to help each other and have honest conversations. These relationships were a good fit at that point in my life. 

Relationships were also hurtful. In work relationships and friendships, I needed to learn healthy boundaries. I needed to not feel guilty for having boundaries. Some rough years, followed by reflection, helped me know how to create healthier boundaries. I’ve carried these lessons into my new country. My overall wellness has improved drastically. My life now is never perfect. However, I am able to flourish in ways in which I could not before. 

To help us thrive and be healthy people, my husband and I made priorities together. When personal or work opportunities come along that violate these priorities, we say no—even if they feel exciting or sound important. As our family’s needs change, our priorities are sometimes prayerfully and thoughtfully adjusted, but we keep them as a reminder of what kind of people we want to be. We want healthy relationships with God and others—beginning with our family.

Trying to endure as many years as possible is probably not the healthiest way to consider global work. Quality of life usually proves to be more integral to longevity. Wherever you are in your expat journey, consider what support exists for mental, physical, and spiritual wellness. What help is available for navigating difficult relationships? What boundaries and priorities seem to be important for your wellness? Why? What other elements might impact a quality-focused longevity in your host country?